For those of you who don’t know, today I turn 39 years old. My dad will call and remind me I am in my 40th year followed by the story of the first time he laid eyes on me just as he does every year:
“…and the nurse came to take you back to the nursery and I asked if I had a son or a daughter…It didn’t matter because you were beautiful.”
Aw shucks. Thanks, Dad! It’s extra special because my mom was taken from us when I was 22 and my brothers were 18 and 16 years old. My dad has learned to be my dad and my mom; while it wasn’t always easy, he is my rock. He can finish my sentences and we laugh…a lot!
Mom was 46 years old when cancer took her and as I get closer to that age my birthdays become more poignant. My friend lost her mom when her mom was 36 and my friend just turned 36 years old. It wasn’t an easy birthday and because we’re in the same shitty “lost your mom when you were both young” club I understand more than most people.
As I enter my 40th year celebrating my last birthday in my thirties I reflect on all that has happened and what I have learned:
- Mean people suck. Don’t let them rent space in your head.
- Love unconditionally.
- You think you know everything in your twenties. You know more in your thirties. I have been told you can afford to actually do some of those things in your forties.
- Do what you love and the money will follow.
- Losing a house and a job was the biggest and best wake up call for me.
- You dreams are always with you. Bring them to life.
- There is a Third Option.
- When you find someone who loves you in spite of you, stick with them.
- Never cheat in life, love or occupation. It will come back to bite you in your dumb ass.
Love like today is your last and never let the turkeys get down!
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