There is an art for how to ask a question. It is part of the art of conversation. I fear I am not that good at either.
It’s fear that causes me to not ask a lot of questions.
When I ask questions, I get so wrapped up in the answer I forget what I asked. I don’t want to ask a question that someone doesn’t want to answer. While at the same time I don’t want to be asked something I am not comfortable answering.
Have you ever been given carte blanche to ask whatever?
Whatever could lead us to a conversation we don’t really need or want to have. I don’t think I am ever going to ask anyone whatever. Ever.
You might want me to ask about a specific, relevant topic for the moment. I might ask what your favorite color is when you want me to ask you something far more philosophical.
Maybe I am just overly concerned at people wanting to be my friend or making a good impression that I am paralyzed by fear.
Even writers have to leave their comfort zones.
The secret is that I would rather be writing than at a cocktail party.
Don’t get me wrong, I am a walking party when I want to be. My cousin was called a walking circus and I have to admit I am a little jealous. I love a good party. An epic party is even better. Either way, I need to hide out for a few days post-party, epic or not.
The reality is that while I may present as an extrovert, I recharge when I am alone.
That’s a telltale sign of an introvert.
An introvert with fear. It’s a wonder I leave the house.
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Have you read Quiet by Susan Cain? In it, she had the best description of the difference between an introvert and an extrovert. While an extrovert pulls energy from being around others, introverts give their energies to others and thus feel drained after being in social situations. It’s not to say that it’s not enjoyable or fun, just that it’s a tiring activity and there is a certain amount of “recharging” that has to happen afterwards. Just a thought after reading your post here and feeling the same way most of the time